Is a Narcissist in your life

 This is a video on Why nobody believes the scapegoat.  It was a blessing when I found it.   Narcissistic Family: Why Nobody Believes the Scapegoat       11 min video  Christmas Day I got verbally attacked by my 32 years old granddaughter.  It was all about a gift for my youngest granddaughter. I have three and the youngest one I hadn't given the card too. YET  Just as a side note I was not given any gifts from any of them. But she confronted me and asked if I had her sisters card and gift in my bag. I said I did. We hadn't even eaten yet. There was another family member close to my age who I connected with at the get together.   We were both sewers and had a great conversation going.  My family never sits down and talks to me so I was so happy to have some good conversation.  The 32 yo decided I should have given it to her earlier. And got really aggressive with me. Then she threw that card and gift I gave ...

I didn't know anything about Narcissism  until I spoke with my therapist, doctor and a friend who had been in a relationship with one.  They opened my eyes and as I spoke to more people about it and shared my experiences I got more validation and information realizing OMG this is what I am experiencing within my family dynamics.  I hope I can offer some information to help you explain certain behaviors within you family, friendships or relationships that may offer comfort. What is Narcissism Narcissism is a self-centered personality style characterized as having an excessive preoccupation with oneself and one's own needs, often at the expense of others. Wikipedia Definition from  Cleveland Clinic A narcissist is someone who has an excessive preoccupation with themselves and a strong need for admiration, often at the expense of others' feelings. This behavior can be part of a mental health condition known as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).   I am ...

8 phrases a narcissist will use to shift blame and avoid any accountability        by Ethan Sterling   Dec. 05, 2024   https://personalbrandingblog.com/phrases-a-narcissist-will-use-to-shift-blame-and-avoid-any-accountability/   Just wanted to share that Number 4 and 6 was used on me.  When I read this article today once again I realized I am not alone   Hope you find something you can identify to feel better and understand this diagnosis  

Best Self Care after Narcissistic Abuse    If you are lucky enough to recognize you have been in a Narcissistic relationship and are trying or have succeeded in getting yourself out of one then I hope people sharing their experience can help move you forward and offer hope you can do better. The suggestions may help the healing process. I didn't paste the whole article, I tried to find it again, but couldnt. Take some time and scroll through to find the specific thread. In the process hopefully whats shared  may offer some good suggestions.   The article is from quora. https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-best-self-care-to-take-after-narcissistic-abuse What is the best self care to take after narcissistic abuse? It's always heartbreaking to hear that someone has been abused by a narcissist. I...

  "This is all your fault." A gaslighter may try to accuse you of harmful actions even if there's clear evidence that they're engaging in similar behaviors.   How to respond:   “I'm sure that I contribute to our relationship struggles in some ways, but so do you. We both have to be willing to change if we want to make this better.” “I'm willing to take responsibility for my role in this, but I'm not taking responsibility for yours.” to find out more click on this link:    https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2023/07/03/harvard-psychologist-toxic-phrases-people-use-when-they-are-gaslighting-you-how-to-respond.html

  Signs Of a Relationship with a Narcissistic Person   Signs of a relationship with a narcissistic person include isolation from family and friends, put-downs, manipulation, and intense criticism and competition.   5th post  Harvard psychologist shares 9 toxic phrases 'gaslighters' use   " Gaslighting ," or the experience of being manipulated into doubting your feelings and perceptions of reality, can happen to anyone.   This behavior is often used to gain power and control in relationships. Being on the receiving end of it can be damaging to your self-esteem, and can even lead to anxiety or depression .    I experience #7 (this one) from my family member: They list 9 things they say on the site below.  

  Gaslighting Test   From Psychology Today here is a test you can take to see if you are being gaslighted https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/relationships/gaslighting-test I scored an 81 I am experiencing some degree of gaslighting from a family member

I found Dr Seth and this article on another blogspot site.  Click on the link below to go there.  Just wanted to share more information with you.  He also has two videos and I am including the links to those.  * WATCH  the  Dr. Seth video on DATING a NARCISSIST   or Dr. Seth's video on HOW to UNDERSTAND the NARCISSIST !! t he  post below was from Dr Seth and was posted Saturday, November 30, 2024   What HAPPENS When a NARCISSIST Gets Upset? https://drseth.blogspot.com/2024/11/what-happens-when-narcissist-gets-upset.html