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Found This Definition for Narcisst

I am going thorough a rough time.  I have been really depressed and have a friend that appears to lack empathy. She sent me an email and asked a question when she knows what I am going through. There was no how are you feeling today or sending something funny to lift my spirits. She knows what I have been going through.  As I write this I see I have expectations and was hurt and angry when she felt like she was lacking any empathy. We have been friends a long time and have run into difficulties over the years. Most times it was because she wasnt able to say she was sorry or when I made  a suggestion she look at her motives and she would get all upset.  I continued to try to  keep the friendship instead of letting it go if it hurt me. Then I read the definition and saw if they are narcissistic the friendship can be exhausting.   I sent her the definition. Now I have my shortcomings too. I can be too honest at times. So I am not without my own personalit...
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What to do when a narcissist turns people against you.

 (15 minute You tube video, link below)  The narcissist in my life is a DIL I am amazed how she has managed to turn so many people against me. I have granddaughters that wont speak to me and met some family at a shower and we clicked. When I contacted them later they refused to take my calls or answer my texts. The one girl told my son what a wonderful mother he has and how great I am.   I made a huge mistake by moving into my sons house and letting my home go. I had to have a new roof and in my late 70s a lot of my savings were gone.  The other evening I saw this article by Doctor Ramani and I was grateful to read it, it definitely explained what was going on.  Sad part is I cant change anything yet. I have been trying to find a new place to live. So I wait, pray and try to make myself happy each day.  Here is the link, hope you enjoy and gain some more awareness into this very unhealthy behavior.  (this is a 15 min you tube video)   https:/...
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Found this Mel Robbins video wow did it hit home for me. I am an empath

  Video:  How a super empath tortures a narcissist | by Mel Robbins  (this is a 20 minute video) https://youtu.be/tUvhkPZqW4A?si=zHloz68Lfy8qjswj I have always sensed things before they happened in my personal life with friends and family.  Sometimes I am right and others not on target, but 70% of the time I seem to be accurate.  Sadly, I am in a situation with my family that involves a narcissist.  She has managed to turn many in my family against me. I am glad I have a good self esteem and am able to love myself for the  perfectly imperfect person I am today.  It took time and lots of life experience to get to this place. :-)) I am grateful I understand who she is and most times I realize whats happening and just remember my psychology classes in college and my mental health counselor training and know this is who she is  and I have no control over it.  I treat her with respect and kindness.  I know she will never change.  I ...
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8 Reasons Narcissists Don’t Care About Truth

  My personal journey dealing with a family member who is narcissistic is both painful and frustrating. Caught between seeing someone I love abused by the narcissist and being powerless over the situation is difficult.  I believe she also knows I know which has made it harder on both of us.  I continue to remind myself of my powerlessness and that I can educate myself and understand what to expect. I continue to try to be kind and loving. So, if I cant help my family member or myself maybe I can offer understanding about this personality disorder to others.     Article by Dr Les Carter well known for his study of Narcissists  If you scroll to the bottom it also has the article in video format  LINK to full article https://survivingnarcissism.tv/8-reasons-narcissists-dont-care-about-truth/ Here is the start of the article, click on the link  to view the full article, Also you can page down to watch it in a video format.    (Belo...
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Why You Were Placed In A Narcissist's Life

  Why You Were Placed In A Narcissist's Life The Truth Will Shock You  From  Zen And Buddhist Teachings.  This video I found very interesting.  https://youtu.be/KPBKECgvx5I?si=T0vWshzxFTuIQlIF I like Buddhist philosophy one of the main laws is Do No Harm .  I try to live by that law and practice it often.  I have been challenged  living in a situation with a Narcissist in the family and often try to find ways of accepting and dealing with the situation.  I watched this video and it gave me a bit of a different perspective.   Hope you find it helpful or and thought provoking.  Have a great day!!
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When The Family Scapegoat Leaves The Toxic Family

 This is by   Tamie M Joyce Great video! Once again I identified with the video and all that I have been experiencing.  I liked her presentation.  It was 30 min, a bit long for my taste, but really covered a lot of areas.  Well worth the 30 min. :-)) I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.It reminds us we are not alone and its not just our imagination, it is really happening to us and we can chose how we respond to the abuse.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1Onifqv_SM
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Attack By Family Members

 This is a video on Why nobody believes the scapegoat.  It was a blessing when I found it.   Narcissistic Family: Why Nobody Believes the Scapegoat       11 min video  Christmas Day I got verbally attacked by my 32 years old granddaughter.  It was all about a gift for my youngest granddaughter. I have three and the youngest one I hadn't given the card too. YET  Just as a side note I was not given any gifts from any of them. But she confronted me and asked if I had her sisters card and gift in my bag. I said I did. We hadn't even eaten yet. There was another family member close to my age who I connected with at the get together.   We were both sewers and had a great conversation going.  My family never sits down and talks to me so I was so happy to have some good conversation.  The 32 yo decided I should have given it to her earlier. And got really aggressive with me. Then she threw that card and gift I gave ...
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