This is all your fault

 

"This is all your fault."

A gaslighter may try to accuse you of harmful actions even if there's clear evidence that they're engaging in similar behaviors.
 
How to respond:
 
“I'm sure that I contribute to our relationship struggles in some ways, but so do you. We both have to be willing to change if we want to make this better.”
  • “I'm willing to take responsibility for my role in this, but I'm not taking responsibility for yours.”

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