Found This Definition for Narcisst

I am going thorough a rough time.  I have been really depressed and have a friend that appears to lack empathy. She sent me an email and asked a question when she knows what I am going through.

There was no how are you feeling today or sending something funny to lift my spirits. She knows what I have been going through.  As I write this I see I have expectations and was hurt and angry when she felt like she was lacking any empathy. We have been friends a long time and have run into difficulties over the years. Most times it was because she wasnt able to say she was sorry or when I made  a suggestion she look at her motives and she would get all upset.  I continued to try to  keep the friendship instead of letting it go if it hurt me. Then I read the definition and saw if they are narcissistic the friendship can be exhausting.  

I sent her the definition. Now I have my shortcomings too. I can be too honest at times. So I am not without my own personality flaws. However, if someone brings something to my attention I will look at it and ask myself is there any truth to what they are saying. I dont go into a counter attack on them.  Well this happened this morning so still fresh in my mind and when I looked up the definition it seemed to fit. So I figured I would post it in my blog.  

I have a family member that is a narcissist. My friend reminded me of some of her behavior, so I looked up the definition of narcissist.  I was surprised it seemed to fit my friend. 

I have talked to others about this and am shocked to realize how many people could fit this description. What has happened to our world that people find it easier to be mean than loving? 

Narcissists exhibit a pattern of grandiosity, a constant need for admiration, and a profound lack of empathy. Key red flags include an inflated sense of self-importance, entitlement, exploitative behavior, arrogance, and intense rage when criticized. They often manipulate, blame others, and lack accountability, making relationships with them chaotic and exhausting






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